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掌控你的职业之路

在过去这一个星期里,我受到南加州大学和加州大学洛杉矶分校中国学生学者联合会的邀请就职业规划问题到这两所学校进行了演讲,演讲结束后也跟许多同学展开了非常热烈得讨论。我非常享受这种跟新朋友见面和交流经验的机会。在此,要首先感谢南加州大学和加州大学洛杉矶分校的同学对我热情的欢迎和支持。同时,我也不断地为这些年轻的,充满激情的中国学生启发着。

在演讲的过程中,我一直强调掌握自己职业道路的重要性

你研究过自己的职业选择么?

最近,有一个朋友跟我说:

“我觉得非常沮丧和压抑!因为我一直都在跟我不喜欢的公司进行面试!
我说:“那怎么样的公司你喜欢的呢?”
他说:“小公司!但是我一直都想自己开公司!”
我说:“那你为什么不去小公司工作呢??”
他说:“因为来学校招聘的都是些大公司!”

让我给大家举个例子(如果你是电视剧《欲望都市》的粉丝,你一定对Samantha的扮演者Kim Cattrall很熟悉。她做为日产汽车的代言人,在广告中的台词是“Mmmmm,YEAH!”)

你看了这个广告以后,会马上去买一辆日产骐达么?

当然不会!因为你们都是非常精明的消费者。如果你想要买一辆车,首先你会想这两车有怎样的配置才适合你。然后你就会想,你是要买一辆新车还是二手的?两门车还是四门车?怎样的引擎?等等。

对你的职业选择,你也必须做一个精明的消费者。在考虑你的职业选择的时候,不要被在学校做广告的公司过度影响。不要被同侪压力过度影响。不要被父母朋友子女的职业道路过度影响。你必须确保花足够的时间去思考你真正想要的职业道路,然后再去选择一个适合你的职业。

找一个能发挥你所长的职业,这个职业必须对你来说有意义。

做为人,想快乐,我们需要找到一份可以用到自己长项的工作,我们同时也需要找到生命的意义。哈佛大学教授Tal Ben-Shahar说他毕业的时候他的哲学教授曾经说过这样的话:“生命很短暂。在选择前进的道路时,你应该先筛选出那些你有能力做到的事情。然后再从这些事情中选择你想去做的事情。然后,从你想做的事情中选出你真的很想做的事情。最后,再选择出你真的真的非常非常想做的事情-然后就去做这些事。”

所以,在下面这幅途中,最外面的圆圈代表的是你所有可以选择的机会。最里面的圆圈代表的是你内心深处最本真的诉求的欲望:

而对于你选择的最中间的哪个圆圈里的事情,不一定是“一个工作”。它也可以是一个目标。

用我过去的人生来做例子。从我在杜克大学毕业以后的20年,我有过三份职业。第一份,房地产开放商。第二份,洛杉矶市副市长。第三份,全球猎头顾问。人们在看我过去的经历时经常会感叹:“奇怪!你的三份工作完全不同!”

虽然我有过三份完全不同的工作,但每一份工作都点燃过我的激情。我是一个喜欢学习新技术和新观点的人。我时常梦想我的未来。帮助别人在未来的人生道路上发挥所长是对来说非常有意义的事情。然而,也因为生命短暂,我希望我的工作是影响深远的也是有意义的。

在我做地产开发商的时候,我开发的社区现在成为了上千人的住所。他们在那里工作,玩乐,培养衙门的孩子们。当我在做洛杉矶副市长的时候,我帮助上百万人进入大学并提高他们的技能。当我在做全球猎头顾问的时候,我希望联系到我做为中国人的根基帮助全世界的中国年轻人实现他们的梦想。

你是特殊的独一无二的。找一份适合你的工作

在我做人力资源管理的这么多年里,我时常为每个我接触的人身上的特质而感到惊讶。两个候选人,他们可以有一样的简历。但当我见到他们本人的时候,却发现他们身上完全不一样的特质。

什么可以点燃的激情?什么是真的真的非常想做的事情?什么样的工作具备这些你想要的特质?总结出你想象中所需要的并且去验证它们。在网上找到做那些你想做的工作的人。阅读它们的博客。关注他们的推特。研究那些工作的职能。认真想想这些工作的职能是你真的喜欢的或者想要的么?

然后,找10家提供与这种类型工作相关工作的公司,然后从这些公司开始做搜索。

你得到一份工作,并且在这份工作上取得成功和开心得可能性都会因为找到一份真正适合自己得工作而增加。

如果你在南加州,以下是我未来演讲的安排。如果你有时间来参加,我非常高兴可以见到你们。

  • 3月4号(这周五),我将会在加州大学洛杉矶分校的安德森管理学院Wilbur K. Woo大中国区商业年会上演讲。这个会议会有上百的对中国感兴趣的商业人士和商科学生来参加。学生票是50美金。想了解更多的信息请点击这里
  • 3月10号(下周四),我将会到加州大学尔湾分校中国学生学者联合会主办的活动上做讲座。题目是:如何得到你的理想职业。讲座是免费的!详细信息请点击这里

Discussion

5 Responses to “掌控你的职业之路”

  1. Hi Joy,

    I attended your presentation and really benefited a lot from it. First of all, thank you for your presentation and your post here. Actually I had a question but I was in a hurry and didn’t get a chance to ask you. So I think maybe I should post it here and if I can get your reply, that will be great!

    In this article you put “Want to do” in the circle of “Can do”. Here is my question, is it possible that there is something that I want to do does not belong to what I can do? The reason I raise this question is because we learn everything after birth, so one can always turn something that s/he cannot do into something that s/he can do, by learning. Should I look for something that I may be interested in but cannot do? Thank you very much!!

    Posted by Haodong Chen | 2011-04-11, 13:31
  2. Hi Joy,

    It was such a wonderful coincident that I ran into your blog through some shared post from my friend. Your articles make me think more about my to-be-started career life, in a more open and relaxed way.

    I am from Guangdong, China, having spent my past 2 years in the UK and Switzerland for the Master’s Degree in Management, Lancaster Uni. At first I did not expect job seeking in the UK was this difficult after my graduation in Dec 2010. Yet 5+ months passed so quickly, and what is left for me is only one on hold application for a graduate scheme in a big automobile company. That’s it. Very frustrated was I some time back in last month, and I overcame that great frustration of not able to support myself at the age of 24, looking at this period of time as an opportunity to make me strong and prepare me for any future hard time.

    I am about to get back home, and the job seeking abroad is about to end. A bit reluctantly, I would have to look for a job in mainland China, where the pay is so much lower than it is in the UK. I have no idea after how many years could I earn back my expensive tuition fee in UK, and I am also dissappointed on myself’s not being able to seal a job here.

    Now all my families are encouraging me to get the last opportunity to look for a civil servant job in China, but I feel it is not what I want, because after living overseas I got to know so much more about our own government, and was very dissappointed by their deed that harm the people while claiming to be the guardian of the people. I assume that I would not fit in to a civil servant position full heartedly, because I don’t really appreciate their way of doing things, and the government’s many actions of fooling the Chinese people.

    What I really want is a management trainee programme in a multinational, and it would be ideal if in the clothing industry where my SME family business is, and maybe one day I would take over my dad’s role and work on the family business. Yet I don’t see many opportunities left in China for me as a fresh graduate – the recruitment season is wrapping now already, and I would not be qualified to apply for those jobs next recruitment season in China. I feel I would be likely to have no choice but to take up something that I don’t really like, because opportunities left is so few. That is the reason I started to think of register for the civil servant recruitment for now, as to give myself one more opportunity in job seeking.

    I understand that life seldom goes in the way that one really dream it to be, but I feel a bit unhappy of the start of my career. I really don’t want to end up very ordinary. I want to shine.

    Would you have any recommondations for me for now? Thank you very much.

    Best wishes,
    Xiaoting

    Posted by Xiaoting Chen | 2011-05-15, 12:57
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